When to discuss having kids with your partner
By Nwele Euphemia
Children are a gift to us; they reflect a better version of us in their structure and being. They are a blessing to families but the choice of having them differ by person and reason.
Some would argue that having children seems to be the most important thing in the life of a woman, however children isn’t the main source of happiness in a marriage and I have to emphasize this because some persons think kids are the only way their home would remain joyous, but then you come across couples who do not want to have children.
Women also seem to crave for children more than men, but it does not mean that men do not want to have children but it is said that women love kids more than men.
Whilst at the beginning of a relationship, you see couples make funny comments about having children, the man could say he want to have about 10 children and the lady waves it off by saying she can handle just 3 and they laugh it off.
From their joke you can tell just how much kids they each want to have; it is necessary to have this discussion early enough so that issues concerning child birth when they eventually get married would be avoided.
In some homes, you see a heartbroken man who just discovered that while he agreed with his wife to have kids she has secretly been taking pregnancy prevention pills to avoid getting pregnant, this must have happened because they never discussed how many kids they want to have and when the kids should come whilst courting.
Even if the discussion took place, it is also possible that they both never agreed or came to a conclusion of how it should be between them. You should be able to talk to your partner about how many children he wants to have and how many children you want to have then you both should agree with convincing reasons as to why you both want children.
Knowing why you want a certain number of kids helps you determine when to start making babies, if you decide to have two kids because of your financial capabilities then does that mean that when you are financially stable you would want more children?
Making babies is amazing but with each child you decide to bring into the world comes a whole lot of responsibility. A fast way to make your agreement work when talking about the number of children you want to have is when you give a clear reason before your partner and you convince your partner.
Most times whoever have the greater reason as to why they want this particular want a number of children wins, other times the couple bot meet each other at the middle by settling for the average number between the two numbers that they each want to have.
Child birth decisions are influenced by reasons why you want to have children; some people want kids because they want to see little kids run around the house, some want kids because they want an heir, some want kids because others have kids, the reasons are person specific.
It is important that you do not make rash decisions about the number of children you want to have, calmly talk with your partner and come to an agreement on what to do.
