Valentine’s Day: Common mistakes young people make during
As February 14 approaches, timelines are already filling with red hearts, surprise proposals, gifts, and carefully curated “soft life” moments. From TikTok trends to Instagram posts featuring luxury dates, Valentine’s Day has become both a celebration of affection and, for many young people, a competition centered on love and material display.
Yet beyond the flowers, chocolates, and viral couple videos lies an important question: Do we truly understand what Valentine’s Day is about—and are we celebrating it wisely?
Understanding the True Meaning of Valentine’s Day
Historically, Valentine’s Day is associated with Saint Valentine, who is believed to have performed secret marriages at a time when they were forbidden. Over the years, the day evolved into a broader celebration of care, appreciation, and meaningful relationships—not limited to romantic partners alone.
Earlier this month, a trending conversation on X began after several students shared concerns about not being able to afford expensive gifts for their partners. Many users responded by reminding others that sincerity matters more than price tags—a message that quickly gained traction. The discussion revealed a growing awareness that the essence of the day may be getting lost in performance and pressure.
Common Mistakes Young People Make During Valentine’s Celebrations
1. Confusing Expense with Affection
One of the biggest traps is believing that love must be proven through costly items. Viral videos often showcase designer gifts or luxury dinners, making simpler gestures seem inadequate. In reality, thoughtfulness carries more weight than price. A handwritten note, a carefully planned activity, or quality time can hold far greater emotional value than something expensive.
2. Giving in to Social Pressure
When “relationship goals” trend online, it is easy to feel left out. Some young people rush into relationships simply to avoid being the only one without Valentine’s plans. Comparisons can be damaging. Every relationship moves at its own pace, and being single is not a failure. Valentine’s Day can also be a time to appreciate friends, classmates, and family.
3. Ignoring Personal Boundaries
In the excitement of the season, some people agree to plans they are uncomfortable with—whether attending unfamiliar gatherings or making decisions they are not ready for. It is important to respect boundaries, both yours and others’. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and clear communication.
4. Overplanning the “Perfect” Day
Scrolling through aesthetic date ideas can create unrealistic expectations. When reality does not match the fantasy, disappointment often follows. Keeping plans realistic reduces unnecessary pressure. Sometimes the best memories come from simple, relaxed moments rather than highly choreographed experiences.
5. Forgetting That Love Is More Than Romance
Acts of kindness often trend during Valentine’s week—students donating to shelters, organizing group visits, or supporting classmates in need. These stories serve as powerful reminders that love extends beyond couples. Compassion, generosity, and community spirit are just as meaningful.
How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day Without Regrets
Be intentional. Think about what truly makes the other person feel valued rather than what will attract attention online.
Stay responsible. Choose safe environments for celebrations and inform trusted people of your plans.
Communicate clearly. Whether discussing expectations about gifts or deciding how to spend the day, honest conversations prevent misunderstandings.
Protect your wellbeing. Emotional health matters just as much as the excitement of the occasion. Avoid situations that may lead to unnecessary stress.
Practice self-love. Treat yourself kindly—whether that means resting, enjoying a favorite activity, or reflecting on personal growth.
Valentine’s Day is just one day, but the principles behind it—kindness, respect, and genuine connection—should last all year. Social media may spotlight dramatic moments, yet the strongest relationships are often built quietly through consistency and trust.
So as the celebration draws near, pause and ask yourself: Are you celebrating to impress others, or to express something real?