Timi and Salome: Deep things you need to know toxic relationships

The sad story of Timi and Salome is a lesson for everyone in a toxic relationship.

24-year-old Salome was slaughtered into over 50 pieces, ready to be consumed as meat by her boyfriend, Timi, who is around 30. This is according to her father, who saw her dismembered remains after she was gruesomely butchered by Timi—the man who ate her in bed and wanted to eat her literally.

I’ve watched multiple videos of the suspect confessing to the murder. In one video, he boldly stated that he doesn’t regret his action. One thing was obvious in those videos: the suspect is either acting to be mentally sick or is truly mentally sick. Whether he was acting or not, he must be mentally sick to do what he did, and the law will surely remove him from healthy people permanently.

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According to psychologists, people with psychosis, schizophrenia, or bipolar disorder are more likely to commit murder.

In its World Health Report in 2001, WHO stated that at least 1 out of every 4 people will experience a mental health disorder in their lifetime—that’s a scary number. Scary because YOU DON’T know if your current boyfriend or girlfriend has any mental health disorder or will develop one with time. All you notice is that they are too quiet, they get angry too easily, or they are very manipulative—you just don’t know that these behaviours are pointers to serious mental health issues.

Some of you are dating people with a bipolar disorder, but you don’t even know it. This minute they are sweet like a sweetheart, and the next minute, they are bitter like bitter kola.

I don’t know how many times I’ll post this, but take your partner in for professional help if they show the following signs:

Mood swings, sadness, elevated mood, anger, anxiety, apathy, apprehension, euphoria, general discontent, extreme guilt over past mistakes, hopelessness, loss of interest, or loss of interest or pleasure in activities.

Behavioural: irritability, disorganised behaviour, aggression, agitation, crying, abnormal sexuality, hyperactivity, impulsivity, or self-harm.

Cognitive: unwanted thoughts, delusion, lack of concentration, racing thoughts, slowness in activity, or false belief of superiority.

Psychological: depression, manic episode, agitated depression, or paranoia.

Sleep: difficulty falling asleep or excess sleepiness

Whole body: fatigue or restlessness

Weight: abnormal weight gain or unusual weight loss

Your safety in that relationship starts by understanding the mental health state of your partner.

Let me tell you the scariest truth: the riskiest place to be is in the same house with a volatile person who’s going through a major financial crisis. This is because financial difficulties are one of the major triggers of mental stress. I listened to the video and heard where the suspect mentioned he didn’t have money to buy food, and then he saw her sex texting with another guy. To be honest, a person, male or female, who’s already broke will be further broken if they discover that their partner has another partner while they are struggling to buy noodles to feed. A lot can happen in their mind in seconds.

This post condemns violent acts in relationships, but PREVENTION IS ALWAYS BETTER, so instead of analysing what befell Salome, I’ll rather advise you—please pay attention to the mental health of your boyfriend or girlfriend. Mental health matters are not just about MADNESS. No. Educate yourself properly lest you get trapped in a volatile situationship with a mentally disturbed individual who no longer sees you as a human but as meat 🍖—or as an ATM.

Be wise!

Charles Awuzie