Ten practical ways to save yourself from heartbreak…here’s all to know

Love is a beautiful thing, but heartbreak isn’t. It could be so devastating when you love someone so much, but get heartbreak as a repayment. Research has proven that heartbreak is one of the most painful experiences anyone can endure.

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The betrayal of trust, the negligence of your love, the unfulfilled expectation, the stab of your romantic fantasy, especially from someone you love so dearly, can constitute an overwhelming emotional toll.

But can one ever avoid heartbreak?

Avoiding it is like not giving your heart a chance to love; it can be so difficult.

However, there are proven ways to safeguard your heart while still maintaining meaningful connection with your partner.

Seven practical ways to protect yourself from heartbreak

Understand yourself

The great Socrates says, “Man, know thyself.” You need to understand your emotional makeup and needs. Know what you want in a relationship. Understand what your love language is and how you express your emotions. Are you a loud lover or a quiet one? Do you love the wild, dark, romantic venture, or are you a cool, gentle, and soft lover?

Set your emotional boundaries.

Know your limit and your points. Articulate those actions that could trigger you negatively or positively. Set your rules. A person with absolute freedom is in bondage. Don’t be the ‘anything goes’ person. Don’t present yourself as one that can be treated anyhow by their partner. Never accommodating things you shouldn’t. Mark your stance early. This will safeguard you from being broken to vulnerability by your partner. Uphold your principles and ensure they respect your rules. Don’t bend it.

Recognise red flags and green flags.

Sometimes, one gets so carried away by the gifts and presents that they ignore the red flags. Pay attention to those actions from your partner that are unhealthy. Such signs like lies, gaslighting/emotional blackmail, excess secrecy and privacy, lack of respect, and others.

Communicate/express your concerns. 

Clear and honest communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Express your feelings to your partner. Don’t hide those concerns. Tell them how to love you well. Let them know the things you like and dislike. Be open.

Prioritise yourself.

If you have spoken to your partner about the way they treat you and they won’t change, you have to focus on your peace. Prioritise your well-being and happiness.

Avoid overdependence. 

Don’t build your entire world around anyone you aren’t sure of. Even if you are, reserve some space for reasoning. Never depend heavily on your partner; the heartbreak will be much worse when they are your only source.

Learn from past experiences. 

Learn from your past mistakes; it helps you to grow. Listen to great podcasts on relationships and heartbreaks; you will learn a lot from them.

Don’t rush into a relationship. 

Take your time, study your partner, and you know them to an extent before delving into the relationship. Remember, rushing into a relationship can lead to emotional disillusionment.

Build yourself 

Don’t neglect yourself when you are in a relationship. Invest in yourself. Learn skills, acquire knowledge, read books, and engage your intellectual mind. Grow your business, build your brand. Don’t sacrifice yourself on the altar of relationship.

Know when to let go.

Everything that has a beginning must have an end. Know when to let go of a relationship. Don’t just hang on to a tiny imaginary thread; let it go. Holding on to someone who doesn’t love you can cause you great pain.

Remember, you have the power over yourself, it’s whosoever you give that power to,  that over rules you. Your heart is too precious to be hurt, protect your heart and save yourself from emotional breakdown.