Self-love is very essential— 7 Things I Learnt in 2019

By Miracle Udeagha

I was expecting 2019 to be a very amazing year for me. A lot of things I hoped to have achieved by the end of the year. Although things didn’t turn out the way I expected, I’m learning from my mistakes and using all these learning experiences to shape myself into a better person. Also, I’m grateful for the little victories I achieved during the year. Grateful to be alive to see a brand-new decade.

Here are 7 amazing life lessons I have learned in this past year:

1. It is not selfish to put yourself first.

I learnt and unlearnt this and then learnt it again and partially unlearnt it. You sha get the drift lol. Putting yourself first should be the main priority. It’s not selfish at all to want the best for yourself.

2. Never let another person define your worth.

Truth is, during the year and before I used to allow other people’s opinion of me count more than that of myself. I learnt this year to never allow another person define my worth. I know how valuable I am and if someone fails to see this, then it’s their loss.

3. Do not waste your energy on something/someone petty.

I learnt not to chase after something/someone petty. Time is too precious and valuable to deal with petty. If they refuse to change, then by all means let them be.

4. Listen to others’ input and (try to) take it into consideration

I learnt the hard way to listen to people’s input and at least try to take it into consideration. Nobody is an island and we all need ideas and inputs from others once in a while but not all inputs should be taken.

5. You deserve better than what you think you do.

You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be treated better. You deserve happiness. You deserve the good things of life. I learnt this during the course of the year and I’m still learning this lol.

6. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness

Never, ever think that seeking help is a sign of weakness. We all need a shoulder to lean on once in a while. Shoutout to those who came through for me at one point or the other during the year. God bless you.

7. Self-love is very essential

You have to love yourself as much as possible. If you don’t love yourself first, it will be nearly impossible to show love to others. Self-love is key.

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